From the Bottom of the Owner's Heart

I did it - I just got married! Yup…I went through it all to achieve the “fairy-tale” wedding I envisioned – climbing the financial hill with my fiancé to fund such a big party, dealing with parents’ desires that didn’t exactly match up with my vision, dealing with future in-laws’ requests, becoming a PRO at interviewing vendors, negotiating prices with various vendors, making unncecessarily painstaking decisions about details I never thought existed, realizing who really wants to be there for you and who IS there for you during such a busy time in your life, spending endless hours on the computer and in book stores researching wedding idea after idea or reading up on correct wedding etiquette, driving all over the Bay Area to scout venues for the big day, pulling teeth with my fiancé to get him involved and help me out, giving in and asking loved ones for their help, and putting aside other important parts of my life to focus on the wedding (I took an unorthodox B in one of my Masters classes, not to mention I took as many days off as I could from working as a NICU nurse).

The funny thing is, I found that for being one of the – if not – THE most important day of your life and presumably the BEST, it sure took a stressful path to get there. For the most part it was enjoyable (obviously, since I am still planning weddings!), but there were definitely times when I thought, Why didn’t we just have a civil ceremony? or Why aren’t weddings cheaper? The busyness of having to accomplish the different tasks during the planning process had me pulling my hair out at times, yet it was something I enjoyed doing, and something I wanted to do. It was a paradox in itself.

Now that the wedding is done and I have that whole experience behind me, there are a lot of things I find very important for the wedding that I would like to pass on to future brides and grooms / brides and brides / grooms and grooms. I am actually surprised at myself. I thought I’d be too worn out to even want to hear the word “wedding.” Yet, lately I have found myself on various websites and at Barnes & Noble reading up on more and more wedding ideas. The more I see something even remotely wedding-related, the more I get inspired. That’s when I realized that I want to help brides and grooms achieve the PERFECT WEDDING DAY.

When I say “perfect,” it is all relative. It is what YOU think is perfect. It is all about YOU. YOUR VISION is what Real Events wants to achieve. I absolutely loved my wedding, but I will admit there were some things I regret… not MAJOR things, but just some things that now as a Wedding Coordinator, I will definitely make sure are taken care of. For example, one of my biggest regrets is that we were so busy that I never got a professional picture taken of me and my two sisters. I wish someone had taken the time to remind me of this or just ask me if there was something I wanted that had not been done yet. So now as a Wedding Coordinator, one thing I will make a point of doing during the day is approaching the celebrants occasionally to ask them if there is something that may have been overlooked that they want to happen.

Another perspective I carry strongly with me is the financial perspective. I lost count how many times my jaw dropped during wedding planning calculations. Weddings can easily break your bank, but I strongly believe that you can still have the wedding of your dreams and not have to spend so much on it. That is what Real Event is here for – our original intended client was the “cost-conscious” client, so we specialize in many cost-cutting ideas, especially DIYing! Of course, if you don’t mind spending more, you can take advantage of our services and still get more bang for your buck!

Real (pronounced “Rey-Al”) Events is named after the two people in my life that have shown me God’s love through their immense unconditional love for me – my parents. The name of this company is not only a dedication to them but a reflection of what I envision my services to be – something that I love, something that my clients will love, and something that will create wonderful memories for my clients … memories of the day they made their love official, the day the “fairytale” became… REAL.